Longest two weeks. Of. My. Life. Women experienced in trying to conceive call the two weeks between ovulation and pregnancy test the “two week wait” (TWW). I mean, a lot of women test before a full two weeks have past, but the TWW is more of a state of mind. By this time, you’ve done everything you can to get pregnant and now you just wait to find out the results. You “symptom spot”, trying to see if your body is giving any clues as to whether you’re pregnant or not. So many things have been going through my head.
First, I can’t seem to get my brain to agree not get my hopes up. Logically, I know (and keep trying to remind myself) that there is only a 10% chance that this IUI worked. However, my heart seems sure that this MUST have worked. I keep fighting the hope and try to bring myself back to realistic expectations, but I’m having a hard time controlling it.
Second, my symptoms have been all over the place. Certain symptoms I’ve been experiencing are typical TWW symptoms… sore breasts, irritability, some acne, etc. Some symptoms I remember having in my previous Clomid cycles… insomnia, gas, constipation. But some symptoms are brand new…cramps, ovary soreness, sciatic pain, vivid dreams, overly emotional. Which of course leads to googling. Which inevitably turns out to be a pregnancy symptoms someone somewhere had, so it MUST mean that it’s a pregnancy symptom for me! The mind games of the TWW are real.
Being in this TWW also means deciding whether to take a pregnancy test (and when), or whether to wait for my period to show up. Many of my trying-to-conceive friends start testing as early as 7-8 days after they ovulate. About 97% of the time, the test will be negative, but they can keep the hope alive and testing early relieves their anxiety. Some won’t test unless they have different symptoms to ease their sense of curiosity. And others don’t test at all and instead wait for their periods to show up.
I fall firmly in the “wait as long as possible” camp. The main reason for this is because I’ve seen far too many negative pregnancy tests already in the last 16 months, and I don’t want to see any more. A negative affects me soooooo much, so I avoid it as much as possible.
This cycle, I could have chosen to take a pregnancy test. And almost did. Waiting 14 days to find out whether this IUI worked or not is pretty close to emotional torture. So I was thisclose to taking a pregnancy test a couple days before the blood test. I thought if I am pregnant, the best thing in the world would be to take a pregnancy test and FINALLY see those two lines on the test. The surprise and relief would be amazing. And it would give me a more “natural” pregnancy experience. However, ultimately I decided that if I’m not pregnant, I truly can’t handle seeing one line instead of two on a pregnancy test. My heart just can’t handle it. So I’m waiting until my blood test.
I will find out if I’m pregnant, or if I’m not, by listening to a voicemail from my nurse after work the day of my beta blood test. I talked to Rob about how he wanted this experience to go. Would we listen to it together? Would he want to be surprised by me? So far, we’ve agreed that I’ll listen to the voicemail by myself when I get home from work. Then, one of two things will happen. If I’m not pregnant, Rob will come home and find me 3 glasses deep in the most expensive bottle of wine we’ve ever bought. (But remember, this is us we’re talking about, so the wine was $14.99. And I actually told him as we were buying it that it would be my consolation prize for not being pregnant. Again.) I’ll also probably be either cuddling with Max on the couch, which isn’t really allowed, or I’ll be in bed, covers over my head. If by some miracle I am pregnant, I have quite a few things that I bought a year ago (when I thought our journey would be shorter) that I’ll use to surprise Rob when he comes home.
I’m going to take a break from the blog after we receive the results. I’m going to need some time to fully process the results either way. I’m sorry to do this, but I’ll update in a couple weeks with either some good news (hopefully) or with the progress on our second IUI cycle, which we’ll probably be about halfway through. Please just keep us in your thoughts these next couple weeks that Rob and I have peace in our hearts either way.
-DD
P.S. Please don’t ask me if I’m pregnant.